Phase 3

Letting go of the past

Overview

Phase 3 is about overcoming the beliefs that are holding you back, letting go of the past, and moving on with your life.

Everything we have done so far has been building towards this, getting your confidence up and getting you into the right state of mind to see that change is possible.

Now this week is going to be a turning point, where you start to see who you are and what you are capable of.

  • Your first task in this phase is to go through the self assessment sheet in the downloadable pdf below, and have a honest reflection of the last 7 days
  • Have a think about the quick wins you set yourself and if you are ready to build on them further or if you need to scale them back
  • Share an overview of your week in the group, along with how you are going to become a better you next week

Self-assessment

In this PDF you can find the questions you need to reflect and evaluate your progress and state of mind over the last 7 days.

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Limiting beliefs

As we go through life we take on beliefs about who we are, what is possible and what we can or can’t do.

These beliefs can often hold us back, causing us to settle and accept the way things are and stopping us from being the person we want to become.

  • TASK: Think about your life, goals and vision statement, and make a list of the limiting beliefs that are holding you back
  • These beliefs can be related to anything from personal to professional or fitness goals or fears. Think of any aspect of your life where you are unsure of yourself or what you can or can’t do
  • You will need this list in the next video when we look at how to overcome them and let them go

Overcoming limiting beliefs

In the previous video you made a list of limiting beliefs and decisions that are currently holding you back in life, and now today I am going to teach you how you can move past them and let them go.

Once you take this on board you can shatter your limiting beliefs, empowering yourself to take on a new found confidence, changing your belief of what’s possible and what you can achieve.

  • Take one of your limiting beliefs and spend some time going through the process and moving towards letting this go
  • This will require you being 100% honest with yourself, and there is no exact time frame on how long this takes, as it will depend entirely on what you need to learn, and how you respond to the learnings
  • From that I want you to set yourself a task, take action and test how you respond
  • You can repeat this as many times as you like, with as many different limiting beliefs as necessary
  • I highly advise that you return to this process over time, as this will be a central part in helping you move forward
  • Download the pdf below which will guide you through the process

How to let go of limiting beliefs

In this PDF I map out the exact process you need to take yourself through to let go of the limiting beliefs that are holding you back.

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Fear

We all have fears of being judged, of failing, of feeling like we aren’t good enough, and often that fear can cause us to hold ourselves back, to settle, accept the way things are and stop us from moving forward.

That’s why we need to find ways to overcome those fears, as that is the only way to reconstruct you as the best version of yourself.

  • Task 1: Think about your biggest fears, what are you afraid of? Why are you holding yourself back? And go through the process of letting go these limiting beliefs
  • Task 2: Think about times you’ve failed in the past, what went wrong? What can you learn from them? Why did you fail? And what can you do differently next time?
  • Task 3: Think of a time you failed in the past and list 3 positives that came out of it. What did you learn? How did you grow? What new opportunities did you get?
    – This will help you start to see failure in a new light

Are you a perfectionist?

One of the biggest things we need to get to the bottom of is why you struggle to change, and this often means facing your demons head on and getting to the cause of why you fear failure.

Be warned this one may sting a bit, but if it does then that’s because it’s exactly what you needed to hear.

  • Fear of failure and a desire to be perfect are two of the biggest reasons who people fail to take action and never change. That’s why that stops for you today.
  • Task: I want you to revisit limiting beliefs, and test the ones you let go. Are they still there? If so what else do you need to learn to let them go?
  • Are there any other limiting beliefs holding you back?

Keeping a food diary

Keeping a food diary is a great way to get a better understanding of the way you currently eat, as well as keeping you accountable for your actions.

That’s why I want you to keep a food diary for at least 3 days during the week and the weekend.

Then in the next section you can use this food diary to get a better idea of your current habits and behaviours, along with uncovering the triggers that are linked to different actions, emotions or events.

  • Make a note or take a picture every time you eat something
  • Recording what you had, along with how you are feeling the time e.g. hungry, stressed, angry, upset, lonely, happy etc.
  • Do this for at least 3 days during the week and the weekend

You can keep a record of your food diary using the attached document, on a notepad, on your phone, or however is easiest for you to keep track.

Download the guide

Recap

Phase 3 was a lot to process, getting you to face your fears, get clear on the beliefs that have been holding you back and silence the voice in the back of your head.

Now moving forward the only thing that matters is taking action.

This weeks tasks before moving on are:

  • Continue focusing on the foundations of adding a portion of vegetables to every meal (or fruit to breakfast), drink 1.5-2 litres of water and walk 30 min each day, along wiht practicing gratitude
  • Continue placing yourself at cause and actively finding ways to move away from being at effect
  • Focus on your quick wins for the week
  • Ensure you follow your plan and if needed spend a few minutes each morning planning ahead for the day